I chose persistence as one of my three key words for this year. I don’t like giving up. It’s not in my nature. But, there are times when walking away is a good idea.

How We Decide Matters

In reading the book “Decisive: How to Make Better Choices in Life and Work” by Chip Heath and Dan Heath, many times we don’t allow ourselves enough choices to make a good decision. We operate in the “Whether or Not” framework.  A good example is “I need to decide whether I should quit my job or not.” It’s a narrow option path.

To expand those options, perhaps looking for another job within the company might be a reasonable avenue. Or, maybe take part in a work project that isn’t normally within the scope of your existing job.

By expanding options, we can more clearly assess the situation.

When the End Is Now

Coming to the conclusion that a change is necessary is stressful, daunting, and emotionally unnerving. But that is what change does. It upsets the natural order of things to create a new model of order. The shaking-up drives the process for a measurement of a new status quo.

We don’t notice all the changes in our life until there is a large accumulation or an abrupt one. Most people really shun this. But others crave the new order.

Acceptance is a wise option.

One example of “being done” is a beautifully crafted post by Julie Kantor. She reflects on her role with two startups and a career transition. In a healthy way, Julie covers her journey and recognizes this moment is a transition. Just that. No regrets.

The Next

Life offers opportunities if we expand our options path. We can only experience our “purpose” when we are doing the work we must do. Doing the work we must do may only become real when we are looking for options. You don’t know your options until you are seeking your purpose. It’s recursive.

Is there a place in your life that is nearing the end, if not already? How can you create the options to escape a narrow “Whether or Not” situation? Are you clear on your purpose? Is acceptance part of your change equation?