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Burning bomb

With all the positive mantras, posts on Facebook and Instagram, and personal self talk, how do you reconcile disappointment in a world slanted toward the positive interpretation of life’s events? We say “It was for the better” when offering up condolences. We write “For every door that closes, another one opens”. We think “Everything has a reason”.

Aren’t we denying that sometimes life just sucks?  That what happened just now in your life is a source of bitter tears. That the loss of someone so dear has no words of comfort.  That a crushed hope staggers the soul.

I want to feel anger, sadness, and fear because it is part of our nature. To avoid these feelings robs us of the full range of life events. Think about it. If I didn’t sense fear, then I would not recognize challenges and opportunities to excel, to be vulnerable, to risk for success or failure.

Theodore Roosevelt wrote this:

” … who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

Living on the edge is uncomfortable. It requires full participation. It is total vulnerability. It is outside the comfort zone of most people. Why do it? You may be disappointed. You may fail. You may lose. Or maybe experience life in its true fullness.

What are you doing in your life now that causes you to feel the full impact of living? Are you cold and timid or hot and bold?

Failure and success are a part of life. Experience both to its fullest and you have built a rich life.


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Last night I was rushing from work to get to the local grocery store and then to a cookout. Bam. Bam. Bam. Until I saw one of the most beautiful sunsets stretching over the parking lot. The sky was rosy pink with bits of orange. Just spectacular.

While looking at the sky, I noticed how pleasant the air smelled. I heard the dull drone of traffic from behind a stand of trees. And, because it was an open mall, music was broadcast for the shoppers. I don’t remember the tune.

And then it hit me …

This is like a movie where the main character has an epiphany while the world chugs along uncaring. There was a deep visual quality of the sunset over all the parked cars. And music to help frame the scene.

Here I was in my own movie except it is my life.

It’s like traveling to a foreign land and only looking through the lens of a camera at all the wondrous sights. Taking videos  so you’ll remember how great this moment was without actually experiencing it.

Later when you return to your home, you’ll share your moments. Review them. Savor where you have been. Years later, maybe forget where it was taken.

But were you really there? Has the moment etched into your being on a conscious level or were you just on autopilot saving your “conscious moments” for the really important stuff?

Are you living your life or acting in it?


Waiting for something to happen is tedious and puts your life in the hands of others. Really. Are you content knowing that someone or something has your life in limbo just because?

Stop being passive in your own destiny. I hear people bemoan and point to other people and circumstances as the reason they lack, didn’t make it, or failed.

Look Inward First 

All the planning in the world won’t do a thing until you move. Until you take that first step. Until you own it. You have everything you need to make the decision to change. But you have to act on that decision. No excuses.

It’s Simple

Once you get that you are the person who decides how you will live, act and speak, then it is simple. Speak your truth. Act your truth.

The Hard Part Is The Introspection

You know what I am talking about. The uncomfortable place where you meet your worst fears. The silent time knowing yourself.  Crying time over loss. Curiosity for what you don’t know. Reassessment of what you value most in life.

Decide today to do something for yourself. Be a participant in the life you breathe. Act every day in a way that supports who you are and mean it.

Do something today. No excuses.


Just before some pending event or experience, something in the air or within is already primed. It’s those few minutes before the storm. It’s the moment your eyes meet and ready to acknowledge the connection. It’s the plan leading up to the delivery date of a project. Life crackles with the electricity of creation.

The time before builds anticipation. The possibility of something extraordinary, truly great. The months before you publish. The minutes before the buzzer signals the game’s end.

It also works with fear … the not knowing until something has manifested. Things can go awry or take an unwanted direction. The same look of anticipation can become skeptical.

In the moments before, what are you thinking? Is this a possible adventure or an event of dread? Does life present challenges of delight or remorse? Are you living a life with opportunity or just living?


Scaffolding. Infrastructure. Framework. Those are all words to describe the pieces in place for buildings to stand, technology to support a business, and ideas to develop.

But what do you call the ideas, things and structure that make up a life?

Since the underpinnings of buildings, businesses, and technology have a direct impact on the strength of the structure, the impact of ideas, and the design of a framework, life’s underpinnings serve as a host for self creation.

Our values dictate our engagement with ourselves and with others. Are we in alignment with our inner guidance or not?

Our soul is the base from which our non-physical self manifests as spirit. Our thought creations give the spark for design and substance.

And, our bodies house the framework as a tangible connection between our values and spirit.

So, how’s your personal infrastructure doing? Are you aligned within and without? Are you made of sturdy stuff? Let me know. I’d like to read your view on life’s underpinnings.

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